Children's Education

Mother is considered as a child growing up to give them the necessary party to encourage the role of the mother and the role of the father is not the same. In most families, mothers play to help children solve the difficulties of life in a major role there, this woman was feeling at a loss to many. “I read the book told me: the children need is so, so.” One mother told me: “It makes me feel I never have done enough, and sometimes I feel like a wash cloth was Jigan , but I still want to do all the things my children. ”
However, children need is not equivalent, as mothers have to consider what a child really need. I have had hundreds of thousands of mothers and children made conversation and see the research on child care information, extracted from the children about what is most need for their mothers worked hard there are some points the essence.
 

(A) develop their love

Mothers need to explain to a child friendly and polite to treat people with outstanding academic and sports equally important.

Emotional aspects of those children a certain culture will produce what psychologist Daniel emotional intelligence, that coordinate their capacity and needs of others, these people have more opportunities than others in life ahead. Bell Labs conducted a series of survey: results of a wealth of engineers who are not necessarily the highest IQ, but who can communicate well with colleagues in engineering.

Mothers are usually the children’s friends skills training.

A colleague told me that he was a child, he had difficulties in making friends. Was a teammate was injured, and the friend’s mother insisted that he call and ask how the boy feels. “Mom,” my friend objected, “he did not even know who I am.” “He’ll know.” His mother replied. This phone marks the beginning of close friendship. “My mother let me know: the origin of friendship to you the concerns expressed by others and not to others concerned about you.” My colleague said this recall.
 
(B) more praise and encouragement

We all know that people can recognize miracles, too much criticism will lead to excessive self-blame the child, so that they consistently in order to be successful and some adventure.

Recognition also has the right way and a wrong way. Most parents criticizing their children can be the total breakdown of the total, and in recognition of ambiguous words Shique ─ ─ “You are a wonderful child,” a moment of glory this assessment will suddenly disappear. Yang should be more specific, therefore the table, not so much “You are very brave,” better to say “I fell down after you climb up the car and still be proud of.” This clearly explains why such an act worthy of praise.

Everyone has a “vital area”, in recognition of this region will soon be receiving unexpected results. As a mother, you may understand better than anyone else for your children, what is important ─ ─ may be music, sports or a course, if you do not understand, ask nothing wrong.

Second, when the children can only absorb so much time to praise, so small and often give some praise. A hundred times a minute for 100 minutes to encourage better than a commendation.
 
(C) talk about “taboo”

We live in a dangerous world. In this world, children look to do is come into contact with drugs, alcohol and sex. Some mothers worry about sort of taboo behavior is to encourage them to do so. But the contrary, the survey found: those who made a frank conversation with the parents of children involved in drug and alcohol abuse is more difficult.

Mothers in particular, have skills with the children about these sensitive topics. First of all, you have to understand these phenomena, and then ask your child what they know. Six-year-old-old child may be heard on such things in the playground or on television to see such things. That you and they are talking about such things is to make them understand their risks, rather than not trust them, letting them know that you are willing to answer any questions or talk about their troubles with them.
 
(D) the limits of appropriate relaxation

Children need unconditional love, this will be the seeds of self-esteem and growth. This unconditional love does not mean you do not set any limits, set boundaries to show his children is very important to you. When a child is crossed when, to explain your actions, not their own that disappointed.

As children grow, to relax some of the natural boundaries. Especially the boys, they want their mother to maintain a certain distance. Psychologists Avon cable – Bei Sisuo Road has described: the first time the boys hit toy trucks, the heart start to burst into the roar of the car, which is born, they want to take risks and show what they see The man had the power. As the boys grew up, their boundaries should be properly relaxed for both the mother should not feel they have been abandoned, and do not feel that they are weak.

Mother is the children the source of great encouragement. Psychologists ADEN – Crafts wire in the investigation of the 250 school-age children found that: nearly half of the children also like to get a mother rather than father’s work. One of the reasons, Bei Sisuo speculate Road: The children also want to know their mother is doing and want to visit their mother’s workplace.
 
(E) specify the parties asked

Children need a moral compass. This means that not only instill right and wrong on major issues, but also instill in their daily chores on the right and wrong.

A mother saw her five year old son riding his friends ─ ─ neighbor-year-old boy in the car. “Tom do not have the car,” his son said, “his school.” He thought he did nothing wrong because his friends will not mind. But the mother insisted that his son get the car back: “In the absence of that person’s consent to use other people’s property is wrong.”

When a mother foster the children’s sense of responsibility, integrity, loyalty to give enough attention to their children on to set a value system, which will be invaluable to the child. The best moral guide is the mother’s own behavior, if the mother’s own evasion of responsibility, ignoring the rights of others or go back on, her children lost a guide behavior.

You may not want to hear these words: “But, Mom, you’re doing.”
 
(6) play with your children

In short, mothers are usually concerned about the so-called important things ─ ─ capture the situation of children, counseling homework. However, intense pace of life in our society, children are eager to not only these, they would prefer spending time with their mothers.

This does not need to spend a lot of time, only has one kind of play playing attitude, a willingness to do homework time into a play or to do household chores into a game.

A friend allowed her children and their friends in the kitchen and slapstick, toys, paint and dirt from time to time to fly down to the food. A few years later, her son to college with an old friend home for dinner. “I always want to come to your house is really nice,” the friend said, “we have here is also falling ops ─ ─ soup with toys.”

Mother is a heavy responsibility for the work, but it does not mean that is a burden, sometimes you need a little less sense of responsibility ─ ─ let you go to hell for their requirements, with your children play together.